We all do it. We allow the circumstances of life to influence our state of being. Something happens at work or in our home life, and our mind launches into a diatribe of monstrous proportions. It doesn’t matter if it was yesterday or last week or ten years ago. That one little bugaboo becomes our focus and colours everything in our life. We never realize that our ranting keeps us locked into a state of being that is not and will never serve us.
All states of being exist. There are states of being such as: health, sickness, anger, happiness, wealth, poverty, etc. They are like radio stations in the ethers and just as you can change stations on your stereo, you can move out of one state of being and into another. Through our thinking and emotions, we attune to a particular frequency, and it becomes the dominant vibration in our life. It is the vibration which attracts circumstances, situations and people into our life.
Many of us have been conditioned to believe that we are victims of circumstances or if only other people behaved the way we wanted then everything would be perfect. The problem with this type of thinking is you give away your power and you allow someone or something else to control your imagination and pick your state of being.
Tuning into a particular state of being requires you to tame the mind. You have to become conscious of what is going on in your mental dialogues. If you don’t like how you are feeling then you have to change these mental dialogues in order to move into a new state of being. It is all a choice.
Now, I will be the first to admit that this can be difficult at times. It takes work. You can’t just become conscious of your thinking for five minutes and expect change. The mind is really an unruly beast and it likes to revert back to the old patterns. We are all creatures of habit and the mind only feels useful when it is whining and complaining.
If you want lasting change then it is a 24/7 endeavour in which you have to prune the thoughts that are not serving you. You also have to recognize that some things take time to change. It is like going on a diet and expecting that when you step on the scale tomorrow morning those ten pounds you put on will be miraculously gone. They won’t but it does not mean that you give up on the process.
If you find yourself rehashing an event in your mind or stuck in a state of being here are a few things you can do:
1. Start looking for something to appreciate about the situation or person.
A lot of times when we are angry with someone or something, we have a tendency of looking for other negative traits to justify our feelings. When we do this we amplify the negative and often the behaviour or situation gets worse. So if you start looking for the positive, you will find your state of being will shift.
2. Keep to the present tense of the state of being you are trying to achieve.
Here is where people have difficulty. You cannot have health if you are continually saying, I am sick. No matter what the circumstance, you have to maintain your dialogues in the state of being you are trying to achieve.
Often when we talk about what we want, we have a tendency of framing it in the negative. We talk about why it will never work or what challenges we are going to face or why someone might say, no. Give up the negative and frame everything in the positive.
4. Recognize everyday is a gift.
I think the following video best sums up this point.