Sunday, March 3, 2013

What Story Are You Telling?

Most of us have been conditioned to think and speak in terms of what we don’t want. We don’t want this illness, this job, this type of relationship, this government, this economy...we don’t want crime in our communities. We have become very good at complaining about what it is we don’t want in our lives. 

Sleeping in Consciousness
Watercolor by Beverly Blanchard

The trouble with this type of thinking is the universe does not recognize the words not/no/never.  The universe only operates on the affirmative.  When you say you don’t want to date any more losers, the universe only hears ‘you want to date losers’.  Beating the drum of what we don’t want in our lives will always guarantee we get more of it because the universe is about matching frequencies.  You get what you focus upon and until you change your thought process, you will keep attracting the same type of relationships, the same type of jobs, the same employees, the same old, same old. 
It is not only the stories we are telling.  The words we use and how we use them are also important.  For example, if you are telling yourself that you want to be free.  What exactly do you mean?  There is freedom for something and there is freedom from something.  When someone asks, ‘how you are’?  Do you say ‘alright’?  ‘Not bad’?  All words carrying a vibration.
So how do you change things? Your first step is to become aware of what it is that you are telling yourself and other people.  Spend the next few days listening to the stories you tell and the words you are using.  Listen to your internal dialogues with yourself.  You may be surprised to find that you aren’t as positive as you thought you were.
After you have observed yourself for a few days, start making a conscious effort to change your stories and to define the words you are using.  Start removing the words no/not/never from your vocabulary and begin thinking and talking about what you want.  I don’t want to date any more losers becomes I want to date someone who is easy to be with, someone who is emotionally and financially secure.  I am sick becomes I am feeling a lot better and every day I am getting stronger.  Frame everything in terms of what you want. 
Listening to the words you are using and how you are using them makes you a conscious creator.  Next time someone asks, ‘how you are doing’?  Tell them wonderful.  It doesn’t matter what is going on right now.  It’s the past.  Your creation of your reality begins in this moment.  Right now is your bouncing off place. 
Start framing your life by telling the story of how you want things to be.  Beat the drum about what it is you want.  Beat the drum of what is going well in your life.  Regardless of what is happening in your life there is always something good that you can focus upon.  Focus on it. Amplify it.  Change your thinking and you change your point of attraction.
Next post I will show you how to stop that incessant dialogue in your head.


  1. I learned this in my NLP training. Time to re-install it!

  2. Thanks for these tidbits, Beverly! I really appreciate your writing. :-)