Friday, March 22, 2019

The Identity Game Limits Your Growth

Once again, we come into this world a blank slate and the first thing we are given is a name and we are told who we are based on our family’s lot in life.  If our parents accepted this reality, they reiterated that reality to you.  As you moved outside the boundaries of your household, your friends, schools, religions, community, the world told you who are. But, who are you?
Down through the ages, it has been the question many have pondered.  “Who am I?”  Some have found the answer and others have backed a ready-made definition of who society told them they were.  They bought into the identity game.  Their existence on this planet earth was based on a limited category.  Why figure out who you are when society gives you ready-made answers and you can blindly accept the definition because then you think you belong.  You are finally part of a group.  The hitch is the group is plagued with polarities.  Not everyone in the group is working towards the good of whole and those who scream the loudest are usually at the lower end of the energy spectrum.

Inherently, you know that you are more than your job, house or car.  You know you are more than your gender or ancestral roots.  You are more than your bank account or your health status.  Still when someone asks the question, ‘who you are?’ we use these categories to define ourselves.  Now there is nothing wrong with that.  The words are just descriptors.  They are useful for this world but when you really start believing the banner and start passionately defending it or using it as an excuse, you have forgotten who you are.
Peeling away the masks in this world can be very difficult.  The programming runs deeps and then there is the resentment or rejection from our families, friends and society for wanting to question this reality.  “Can’t you just accept it?”  “Who are you to question what we have been told down through the ages?” They will recite.  Do not let yourself be swayed by outside authorities.  There is more to you than your outside appearances.   
The old belief patterns given to you at birth run deep and there is inter-connection between beliefs.  This journey is like those little Russian dolls.  You think you have found the true face of who you are only to uncover another face staring at you in the mirror.  With this face is another program running in the background of your life.  Finding out who you truly are is a process.  It requires a withdrawal from the outside world and understanding that the group is not you.  In reality, you have never been part of the group and in thinking that you were part of the group identity, you have been led away from your true being.
Who you truly are is based on how you live your life, your deeds and actions.  It is not the mask.  Is your word your law?  Are you flowing from the stream of love or are you spreading anger and hate?  In other words, what state of being are you operating in?   Have you stepped into the identity game and based your existence on beliefs that are limiting your ability to grow?   You can see the glass as half empty or full or you can expand your world view and see there is more than two answers.  Couldn’t you just see it as a glass with liquid?   Perhaps it’s just a glass or it was a stupid exercise designed to keep us in an either-or lot in life.  There are always combinations and permutations along the path.  There is never one or the other.  There is only a watching.
Wishing you a day of many pleasant surprises!

1 comment:

  1. Thank you. A lot is said in this page and let me experience this process.